January sucks n that’s the tea x

( n yes I’m my own best meme )

I haaaaaaate January, I can no longer eat mice pies on the daily; I’m skint af- despite working ridiculous hours for weeks on end- I haven’t seen my pals in forever (I miss n luv u all), the weather is AWFUL, like the sun even hates January it’s avoiding us that much, and finally it’s the time of where all that’s plastered everywhere, and I mean everywhere is: New year, new you; resolutions; veganury; dry January etc...

These are only a handful of phrases that you hear on THE DAILY when a new year begins, and let me tell you they infuriate the cahoots outta me! we’re forced to re-evaluate all our life problems within a matter of days, stressing over that last min resolution we need to say we’ve made, and place the expectation we can solve them all when in fact it’s a lost cause before we even start. Whilst I’ll admit I used to be big on this whole new year, new me garbage; finding myself writing goals i planned achieve once January hit (failing miserably every damn time however), and telling myself that this time round a was gonna stick to it n smash them. Looooooool spoiler, I never once stuck to them for more than a few weeks. Whilst it’s important to have a goal the idea of waiting till a new year to start it is now a bizarre notion to me.

For so long I was consumed by this feeling I HAD to establish a new idea of how I was gonna change as soon as those bells chimed me into a new year. The pressure was huge, I’d fail and feel even worse about myself since I couldn’t follow a change in my life that I’d made for myself? Usually being a diet (bc let me tell u I was one self conscious bean about my weight) since all I wanted was to “fit in” to societal norms (well keep this issue for separate post, because that is a whooooooole separate matter). I don’t know what’s changed, maybe it’s just me being more in love with myself? Or that I finally feel like I’m who I’m meant to be (insert: this is me- camp rock xx) but anyways I’ve now come to realise that this notion of making new goals to change yourself at the beginning of a new year is just damaging rather than beneficial. You know it’s true right ?

Now am not saying you shouldn’t be thinking of ways you could better yourself, heck I’m a mess! But instead of looking at it as a whole new lifestyle (idk if that’s a good word?) we should be focusing on self care! Now self care can be anything that makes you happy! No matter how small, for me simply a coffee date with my luvs or relaxing in a bath with a face mask is enough to feel like a rejuvenated me!!

although be careful my dudes; I’m a clumsy bitch who has dropped both my phone and book in the bath when trying to take some me time (it’s okay it’s functioning still, fingers crossed); so all I stress is DONT DROP UR PHONE IN THE BATH!

So whilst we all power through the worst month of the year, dont place pressure on yourself to completely revamp yourself or your life within January. Rather, if you wanna change things, focus on how you can achieve it throughout the year- but remember if you don’t wanna change anything then you don’t have to!! Also don’t buy into this capitalist garbage of spending loads of money on the latest item that promises you the best self care of your life because let’s face it, all it’s gonna do is make you even more skint and turn out to be a waste of time. instead plan time for a simple activity or even just scheduling a part of your day or week that is solely for your own enjoyment; grab a coffee, have a bath, even masturbate- because damn you feel class after that. Don’t even @ me the taboo of female masturbation has got to go. So bois so what you wanna do, but don’t forget that you don’t need to establish a new you every time January comes around! Stay the same amazing you and find yourself throughout the year xx